My best friend moved to Africa to join the Peace Corps, I went through a professional crisis, and my Denver family has been dealing with the death of my Grandmother- the matriarch of the family.
Throughout all of these ordeals, food preparation gave a sense of routine, a task that can be completed, a simple accomplishment that provides a sense of purpose.
When families go through a rough time, feeders want to show their love by providing a meal to the grievers. I am a feeder, I totally get this. However. As part of the family going through the grieving, I have noticed how vital those meal preparation times are. My Dad feels helpless for his mom. What he CAN do, is provide meals. He's a decent cook and I can see his relief when lunch or dinner rolls around. So, I have put together a list of things you can do for families that are going through tough times that support the small roles they can play.
- Send giftcards to local restaurants. Even fast food places that are close by. Being able to just get out of the house for a few minutes is huge when you are giving round the clock care.
- COFFEE. Whether gift cards to places close-by or bulk, ground coffee, it flows during hard times.
- Grocery gift cards. Usually there are more people than normal hanging around and a little help in the grocery department could go a long way.
- Now, my family are not exactly people-persons, but offering to go for a walk, run, or even a yoga class could be really soothing as well. Any sort of physical activity is good when you are not doing much more than sitting around all day.